Loss is the feeling we experience when someone close to us dies and we miss their physical presence, their love and their friendship. To regain our health and happiness we have to acknowledge and accept this loss. We may not have the physical presence of the person who died but we generally do have memories, photos, letters and mementoes of times we shared together. These memories are often very painful at first but as time passes become a comfort to us.
Grief is the way we express our loss. It is made up of the many different feelings we experience when someone dies. We may experience shock, numbness, disbelief, anger, guilt, frustration, yearning, loneliness, depression, feelings of “why me” or denial. Crying, feelings of extreme sadness and talking about the person who died are the most common ways we grieve. Grief is very complicated and takes many forms. Some people are very frightened of strong, unfamiliar feelings and believe they cannot cope.
When a family death develops into a crisis, the problems may seem overwhelming to both the grieving person and their close friends and relatives. It is often easier to talk to an outsider about personal matters – someone who is trained to listen, help you explore and discuss ways of coping with your feelings.
Sometimes people experience a delayed grief reaction many months or even years after a death. When grief is delayed or blocked counselling may sometimes be necessary.
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